In the midst of a history-making Women’s March, I felt so compelled to pay homage to women. We had an astonishing 2016. from cleaning up at the Olympics to Beyoncé being Beyoncé. 2017 isn’t even a month deep and we have Issa Rae, Viola Davis and Tracee Ellis Ross as remarkable role models. Black girl magic doesn’t just exist in the media it’s also around your everyday surroundings. If you are thinking of dating a black girl who possesses this inspirational magic here are some tricks to keep her shining …
Be Her Peace
Dating a Go Getter has its perks .. If she’s a busy body Nap dates are pretty essential. Listening to how her day went and dropping a gem of wisdom from time to time is what she will always remember. The little things matter especially when her life is hectic. Everything around them might be chaotic and complicated women yearn for understanding and comfort.
Be Her Man And Her Biggest Fan
If she’s a model … Show off her pictures, if she sings be her muse … sit right in the front row, if she’s a writer Repost her work *Winks*. So on so forth… Women love support from those that are close. Lack of effort builds lack of interest. Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t respect what they are passionate about?
If She’s Worth It, Be Assertive
There’s gonna be days she’s not a diva and her moods are all over the place, women want their partner to keep us together. Be assertive use your words wisely and know when to apply pressure. If she’s a workaholic it’s necessary to communicate you miss her you need your time.
Jealousy Screams Insecurity
Sometimes it is adorable to give the one liners to your girl the ” you know I’m watching you …” but knowing the woman you are dating helps ease every bit of insecurity. If she is networking or you witness her speaking to someone in a way that the person is attracted to them … is she to blame for their attraction? Especially, if she is doing her job. No, some people can’t tell the difference between friendly and being flirtatious. This is where trust comes to play, if you do not trust her then don’t waste your time. Communication comes into play. Say what you saw and then hear her out, but don’t be jealous. Your insecurities can handicap your relationship.
Privacy & Secrecy Are Two Different Words
No one wants to be a secret, but in different lines of work, privacy must be respected. Keep it calm and cool but don’t be comfortable in the cut now and then a pop of social media PDA is cool all depends on her line of work. Push come to shove play your position and know who you’re investing time in.
You Matter!
We need you… being overly independent role is cliché. We see you and appreciate those that stand by extraordinary brilliant women. We are mere reflections of you … so whatever you instill in them they should give it right back.
Consistency & Communication can help any relationship. Patience is key. Enjoy the journey of watching a phenomenal woman grow before your eyes.
– Signing off Bebe Palmer
